Intelligent woman guide to online dating

10-Apr-2015 16:25 by 10 Comments

Intelligent woman guide to online dating

Intrepid men and women with a drive to explain the unknowable have long answered the great mysteries of the universe, and of the human condition, with science.

With a list of eerily specific guidelines—covering everything from the perfect screen name to the wording of that first message—science has the looking for love covered.And for those who judge breakthroughs in online dating insignificant in the annals of scientific discovery, even Carl Sagan knows that “For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.”Men are simple creatures, the science suggests, so obvious screen names are the most effective.Men gravitate towards positive handles—this isn’t the place for self-deprecation—that intimate the person on the other side of the screen is sexy (stuff like “Blondie” and “Cutie”).Meanwhile, women prefer a screen name that makes its owner sounds smart (“Made Up Of Star Stuff,” perhaps? Interestingly enough, the letters that make up your screen name may be even more important than the words they form.Several measures of success, like educational achievement and income, are associated with names that start earlier in the alphabet, according to the study.And tipping the scale ever-so-slightly on the creepy side, similarity breeds affection, so a user named “Hot4YOU” would be more likely to respond to someone with the related handle “Burning4YOU”.

“There is an opportunity to exploit the name-similarity effect by browsing extensively before registration, identifying profiled names of people who you find attractive, and then choosing a similar screen name,” the authors write.

So the obvious “be good looking” aside, there are a few hacks that give you a better chance of being swiped right. You should provide photographic evidence that you have friends.

You should have a “genuine smile” in your picture, one that crinkles up your eyes. It’s good if you can get a shot of you in the center of a group of people (because, Power), better if you’re a man to have a few women smiling adoringly at you (because, Desire), and best if you’re shown touching another person, but not being touched, because apparently the toucher is perceived to be of a higher status.

First and foremost, be honest, but not brutal in your self-assessment.

It’ll be obvious pretty quickly upon meeting if someone is lying, the authors say.

Liars “look as if they are thinking hard for no good reason and to converse in a strangely impersonal tone.”The perfect description falls in a ratio of what you are like to what you want.

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