Dating a black man experience
Dating a black man experience
At 31, attorney Robyn Thorpe isn't sure she's ready to be married yet.
Thorpe, who grew up in Allentown, Pa., and attended Penn State University and North Carolina Central University School of Law, is a panelist for a Washington, D. Transcript follows: ____________________ Suburban Virginia: Why does the typical black male father kids, then bolt from their responsibilities?
I bet you see a lot of black men with kids out there in your dating adventures. Robyn Thorpe: I do meet men who have children and even though the men are not with their ex-girlfriends or wives, I find that most men I come into contact with are in their children's lives and try their best to be good fathers. C.: I think black men have high rates of dating outside of the race because their mentality can be likened to black kids in the doll experiment.
What does raise my eyebrows, is meeting a father and him telling me that he only dates women with no children. Remember the psychological experiment with black kids, where black kids preferred white baby dolls to black dolls?
The same thing goes for many black men and even African men.
For many centuries, the African-American woman was treated as if she was not "beloved" or a "Trophy" - but as someone to degrade, whorize, and made to work as a slave, and exploited sexually by the slave master whereas White women were prized. But judging from the stats and from our own experiences isn't it time that Black women start broadening our own horizons???
I've noted that many African men have these same views - and will call a black woman a slave, wench, etc., and a white woman a "prize". Robyn and would not look to Africa to find a prince. I'm sorry but it's sad to see a 45 year old never-been-married sista talking about the virtues of not settling.
It's because these men have low self esteem themselves that they are this way. C.: I'm a 35 year old BW who decided to exercise my options and to marry outside the culture (African). We may never have the ole-school love our parents had. We gotta start taking risks and finding love in new places.Alot of blue collar black men, who are not college educated often tend to be seen with white girls as well. You are going into the historical aspects of the color complex and interracial relations and thanks for doing that. My gfs who are in relationships are also coupled with non-Black men. Robyn Thorpe: I agree but we have to do it our own way.Black American women are at a disadvantage in American society because of the social conditioning, and because of the stigma attached to their gender and history at the hands of oppression. Robyn Thorpe: Black American women are at a disadvantage in American society because of the social conditioning, and because of the stigma attached to their gender and history at the hands of oppression. I don't agree with your particular perceptive but agree that all these issues can play a part in the dating game. I have been to Africa before and I am not going to Nigeria and Ghana to find a prince, I am going because I love to visit African countries and interact in my Motherland. Broadening for me is by economic situation, for you it is by race.That is why I'm thankful that I as a black woman have options still in terms of dating and a mate. That is why I'm thankful that I as a black woman have options still in terms of dating and a mate. _______________________ Baltimore, Md.: Robyn, I found your article very interesting.As a single man living in Baltimore I find myself in the same predicament as you and some of your friends.I am haunted by the quote "All of life is a dispute over taste and tasting." It seems as a young professional Black Man I am torn between the variety of women that are attracted to me and the women I am attracted to.